There’s no doubt that becoming parents means a big change in lifestyle. For those whose lives revolve around fitness or sport, there will need to be some adaptations made. The good news is that there IS an active life when two become three (or more). How can it be done?
Olympic gold medallist Jessica Ennis-Hill has just announced that she will not be competing in this summer’s Commonwealth Games, because she is pregnant. It seems from her announcement that this is something of a surprise, although she says that she is still planning to defend her title in the Rio Olympics which will be held in 2016. At the age of 27 there is no reason why she should not be able to do this – but like all new parents, she is going to have to make some changes.
Until relatively recently, pregnancy was kept very much under wraps. Pregnant women were not supposed to be seen in public, and were ‘confined’ for as much as a month before the birth. It is only in the last forty years or so that attitudes have changed.
Now pregnancy bumps are celebrated and put on show, and there is a strong suggestion that women should be ‘back to normal’ the moment the baby arrives. Indeed, there was some media surprise when the Duchess of Cambridge was shown with her newborn son and still had a ‘baby belly’ – as if they were expecting her to ‘deflate’ instantly. For a new mother grabbing sleep when she can, and still recovering from the birth, this kind of unrealistic image can be very depressing.
The imminent arrival of even the most wanted baby can also produce some very contradictory feelings. There’s no doubt that there are going to be big changes, and adding the fear of the unknown can produce some sleepless nights earlier than might be expected. This applies especially to those who are very active, and whose choice of activity is not one that can be shared with a baby or small child. Some have likened it to grieving for a lost lifestyle – Ennis-Hill has said that all her plans for 2014 have been completely turned upside down, and this is a natural reaction.
There is no doubt that it takes time to recover from pregnancy and birth – but if all goes well there is no reason to expect long-term effects on fitness. There are many examples of athletes who have returned to the top level after having their babies. Eating healthily and keeping active during pregnancy is also beneficial, although medical advice should always be heeded. Most people know that ‘eating for two’ is not necessary, but pregnancy must always be taken into account. A woman’s body will behave differently while there is a passenger!
Some ideas for those wanting to keep active before and after their happy event:
There’s no doubt that the arrival of a baby marks a complete change for everyone – but there will still be a place for fitness. Active parents set a wonderful example for their children, so it is well worth making it happen.
Tanith, I DO do many of the nightfeeds and am a modern man in all senses of the word. I still manage to get to the gym, lift a few weights, go on the treadmill and 20 minutes and I know how much better I feel after. I guess it depends on the person.
Oh I give up. The comments reflect exactly what I mean about women being pressurised to do it all. So your wife is tired with a 3 month-old, Mike? YOU do the night feeds for a month and see how much you fancy going to the gym. An incentive scheme?! More like another guilt trip.
Derek B, my wife's the same with a 3 month old baby. I reckon she'd feel better to get out to the gym like she used to but she says she's too tired. Maybe they could have some incentive scheme?
Ditch the car and stop driving around to activities with your baby so much. Get a decent pushchair with all-terrain wheels and go jogging with your child. They will love it!
Wish my wife would read this! I'm careful to look after my own fitness and I've told her I'll support her in every way I can - look after the baby, research gyms and exercise classes for her, whatever - but she says it's just too much too soon. I'm convinced she'd feel much better for getting out there and moving!
Mother and baby exercise groups are the way forward!
My wife was feeling pretty low after having a baby, but once she started getting out and doing some exercise she started feeling loads better. Amazing what it can do for the mind!
Hmmmm... As long as mums are doing it to meet their own needs, I guess, not just conforming to what society expects of them.
This is hardly about supermodel bodies or eating disorders! It's just about looking after yourself sensibly. And the fact that there are dads out there who understand the importance of this means it really isn't a matter of women having it all.
Me-time and setting a great example to our children? More like buying into the women-can-have-it-all MYTH if you ask me. As if life with a little baby isn't hard enough now we're supposed to have supermodel bodies as well. And an example to our children? More like setting them up for a lifetime of eating disorders!
It's so important to get a sense of yourself back when you've had children. Going to the gym is great because it's not only me-time but sets a great example to your children, too.
I think Dads can really help too. My wife started exercising when our daughter was 12 weeks old. Rather than using a crÃ¨che I look after our daughter so she can get to both her weekly classes. At weekends we also try and spend at least one day out and about ensuring we all get the fresh air we need.
It's also worth remembering you may have to wait up to six weeks after having a Caesarean. It can be annoying having to wait but it's worth it to ensure you don't end up back in hospital.